I have a profound respect for people who ask to be rated. When we willingly submit to examination and grading, it could look like a little matter to those who find it easy to stand naked in the eyes of everyone and not feel vulnerable.
Whether you are asking to be rated in relation to your character, habits, performance or your looks, it takes a great deal of courage and self-confidence which you might not even be aware you possessed. The following are some of the elements I think constitute the internal chemistry of those who willingly ask for and even desire to be rated.
- They are courageous enough to face any negative verdict that can come from the raters.
- They have a positive self-image, enough to handle any kind of feedback from their audience.
- They have come to a place in life where they are no longer scared of what people think or say about them. They have such a powerful self-portrait that cannot be broken by people’s opinion.
- They are mature enough to handle criticism, whether constructive or destructive.
When you are animated by such a mind set you can’t easily be destabilized by the kind of rating you receive from your audience.
Now, what are the various kinds of reactions that are provoked in us when we subject ourselves to rating?
- We could become angry because the rating falls short of our expectations. You expected and ‘excellent’ but you got an ‘average’. This could be a sign that you still have much to learn and become mature. It could also be a sign of too much self-confidence. It is good to be confident, but your self-confidence should be built on a powerful foundation so that it doesn’t get easily eroded.
- We could develop a swollen head and begin to think ‘I beat them all. None can stand up to me’. Don’t get carried away by the “excellent” you got. It is just someone’s opinion. Celebrate your achievements but stay humble, reachable and teachable.
- We could become discouraged and depressed. “Well, I guess no one likes me around here. I give up’. Get for yourself an image that is independent of external views. Get to discover the intrinsic you. No amount of negative feedback can destroy your intrinsic value.
- We could show gratitude for the feedback we received. If it’s good, determine to do better. If it’s bad, determine to be good. Refuse to get upset with anyone. This is a mature and wise response to the rating experience. You are confident enough to handle critics and you are humble enough to acknowledge your weaknesses.When is the last time you asked someone to rate you?