What will you do if your own child looked at you in the face and made that kind of a statement? Will you consider them rude, ungrateful and mean? It might be they are rebellious and wanting to have their own way in life, or it might just be a call for you to take a deeper look at things you have ignored for so long. A better and more objective approach to such a statement will be to ask yourself a few questions.
- Have I done something negatively outrageous of recent?
- Has she discovered something I have been trying to hide from her?
- Does the life I live inspire her to be proud to be my daughter?
The truth is that our children go through every bit of pain, trauma and stress we face in life. You could try to hide it as best as you can but the signs are always there. You might not say a word about it but they can read it on your face. Things are not working out between mum and dad. Mum has been crying in her bedroom. Dad has started staying out late at night again. Mum has become very sad and anxious ever since that lady moved into the neighborhood. Take a closer look. You might think your kid is shielded from the mess in your life whereas she’s really part of it, savoring every piece with you. That child might be hurting more than you are. You have a deeper understanding of the things that are going on in your life but she doesn’t. All she sees is the pain and stress on your face and she really want to help but doesn’t know how. When she says she doesn’t want to be like you, she is not trying to belittle or humiliate you. It is a cry for help. She is scared to death of having to live the same kind of life you live. Rather than get angry with them do something about yourself and give that innocent one a chance to live a different kind of life; to be happy. Get some help, even if it’s just for the sake of that child.