HEALING BROKEN HEARTS AND WOUNDED SOULS

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Lord, if it be your will take this away…

brokenness

 

If you’ve never been there, then you’re never going to really understand what is at stake in their life; so why not just pray for them and leave it at that?

Why not just hold back that comment and observe instead?

They may not be as complacent as you think.

They may be spending sleepless nights over it.

They may be in the middle of a fast because of it.

They might have begged God a hundred times to take that thing away.

Perhaps they’ve got their lessons to learn;

Perhaps it’s a thorn in their flesh they have to live with;

Perhaps their faith is being tried;

Perhaps….God alone knows why.

Do not put that label on them;

Do not make that conclusion you are about to make;

Do not judge, categorize and condemn.

Rather, ask from God the wisdom and discernment to see beyond the physical,

Then you may begin to understand what they are having to endure.

 

 

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THROW OFF THE CLOAK OF REJECTION

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There are behavioral patterns that are set in motion when one has had to suffer rejection of any kind. You might not even be aware of it but they stick to you and stick out their heads in your daily activities.

But it is possible to live a normal life without carrying that cloak around. Victims of rejection could manifest some or all of these behavioral patterns.

  • They suffer from low self-esteem. They think there is something lacking in their lives; that they are not worthy and that is why they were rejected in the first place.
  • There is an internal emptiness and pain as they yearn to be considered “normal” but all they get is prejudice. Every human being, no matter how bad yearns to belong and be loved.
  • People who have suffered rejection could easily become men-pleasers in an attempt to be accepted by them. They could become too good or too bad depending on the demands of the group they want to belong to.
  • It can lead to anti-social behavior. They could join groups or gangs that engage in anti-social behavior as a way of lashing out at the society that has rejected them.
  • Some of the victims tend to search for love and acceptance in the wrong places; they could end up in promiscuous behavior and even prostitution. This then leads to abusive relationships and the vicious circle of rejection starts all over.
  • Even when they become Christians they want to earn God’s love and acceptance. They may engage in some form of penitence and activism thinking it will make God love them more. They feel unworthy before God and are constantly afraid of being rejected by Him even for the minutest mistakes they make.
  • They are afraid to ask God for big things thinking they are asking for too much from a God who might just be coping with them.

What is the way out of such a trap? I do not have a magic formula but I will share some of the things that helped me get over the rejection syndrome in my life.

  • Make a conscious decision to throw off that cloak of rejection just as Bartimaus threw off his beggar’s cloak. Let it be clear to you that no matter how bad people say you are there is an unexploited treasure deep within you. You have gifts, talents and qualities that no one has ever discovered. It is possible that the rejection you suffered is just one of the satanic strategies meant to keep you from ever reaching your full potential in life. Do not believe his lies; you are not useless because God created no useless person.
  • Stop listening to people’s opinion about you and start learning about who God says you are. This has had the greatest and most influential impact on my life. When I was growing up I heard a lot of abusive words that made me feel rejected and estranged. They created a very negative self-image in me. It took the word of God to delete them from my mind and to reprogram my mind according to who God says I am. That is when the suicidal thoughts vanished because I had found my worth in Christ.
  • Avoid the trap of banding yourself with people with similar problems as a way of finding comfort and consolation. A man can only give what he has. They will speak and act just what is in them and you do not want to get dragged deeper into it. Read inspirational books, attend some motivational conferences and hang out with motivated people. If you must join a group, it should be one that helps people get out of such issues.
  • Discover and develop your gifts and talents. The day I started discovering my gifts and talents everything changed. I no longer felt like a useless consumer of the resources on planet earth. I felt like a contributor. I had something some one needed and this completely changed the way I saw myself. Everyone is gifted and the fact that you are not yet using your gift to bless others does not mean it is not there. You might not be like that great preacher or singer but you might have that ability to make people laugh. Start making people laugh and before you know it you will be in demand, and then the perfume of rejection will vanish from your life.

God’s overwhelming goodness

Do you know that many of us do not know what to do with God’s love? It is so great, so overwhelming that we cry out like peter, “depart from me Lord, I am a sinner (Luke 5:8)”  because we do not feel worthy of it. It pushes us to want to do something to pay God back for such great grace and favour we have received.

Calm down beloved of the Lord. You Father’s love is not for sale. There is nothing in the world that is precious enough to buy an ounce of that love. You do not need to be prettier, richer or more pious to deserve it. While you were yet dead in sin, he loved you the same (Romans 5:8). What more of now that you have accepted to be a member of His household? Will He not shower even more of it? God is love, He cannot help it and all you need to do is accept it and learn to love Him in return.

IT CAN’T BE PETER

(Too good to be true)

The events in Acts chapter 12 about Peter’s imprisonment and release are quite telling about our attitude to prayer and receiving answers to our prayers. Is it possible to pray fervently for something and when the answer stands at your door, you fail to recognise it? It seems so, as can be seen from Peter’s story.

Herod got Peter imprisoned. The church interceded fervently with sweat and tears for his release. Now, one evening, while they yet prayed, a servant girl answered the door and came with the news that Peter is standing at the door. She did not immediately open the door, the first sign of unbelief. She probably needed someone to confirm to her that the answer to her prayer was staring at her in the face, waiting to be taken in. Now, she is just a servant, perhaps not versed in the ways of God. What about the church itself? They conclude that Rhoda must be beside herself. They simply refuse to believe that somehow, God has answered their prayer. It just can’t be Peter. So what on earth have they been expecting from God, that he should say no? Why bother to pray if you do not think God is going to answer your prayer? If Rhoda, the bearer of the good news looked too stupid to be believed, it is because these prayer warriors had a preconceived idea as to how God was going to answer their prayer.

Beloved, the ways of God are so much higher than ours. While you pray, bear it in mind that the answer can come in any form and from any quarters. From this story it is obvious that sometimes, for one reason or the other we fail to recognise the baby we have with so much effort pushed out of the birth canal. God’s blessings do come in packages we do not recognise and all we need to know is that our God is so immense and full of variety. We must never tie him down to the level of our limited minds.

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