When you’ve been abused, mistreated, used and dumped
It takes courage, the willingness to forgive
And the desire to live again
To give out your heart another time.
That’s why we must never exert pressure on people
To open up their hearts to us.
We deserve openness and genuineness in every relationship
But we must give people the time to change,
To heal and to willingly open up again.
Trying to force it out of them can be counter productive
NO matter how much you love them and want to be with them
Just be gentle enough to let them loosen up naturally and at a pace
That is comfortable for them.
They may really be in love,
But still needing time to get on the rails
Do not be impatient when they seem reticent
Let the rose unfold naturally.
Love and Blessing, Gretiana
My last post was titled, “If…”, and in that post I said if Jesus paid so great a price for me to have the blessings God has in store for me, then how can He again put a limit on my blessing. I wanted to show that most often we do not get blessed because we fail to lay claim to what is ours.
In this post I will go further on the topic. You might be asking yourself, “I know God has many good things for me; I know He wants the best for me, but no matter how hard I try, I never seem to obtain that which pertains to me.
“What are you telling me woman? I didn’t choose to live like a beggar. I wish to enter into the fullness of my blessing, but I just don’t seem to get it each time I try.”
From my own experience with God I have learned a few lessons that I will like to share with you.
1) Your difficulties may be a result of seeds another person sowed some time ago. Generational blessings are real, so too are generational curses. That is why you must sow the right seeds today so your children will not suffer in the future.
2) Your misery may be as a consequence of the irresponsible decisions someone is making. The world is a global community and we cannot really escape from the effects of others’ folly. You will have to be wiser and smarter in order not to keep being at the receiving end of every wrong decision in your neighborhood.
3) Your own very lifestyle and mistakes may be responsible for your situation. God forgives sin, but He does not always take away its consequence. Sometimes we just have to bear the wages of our mistakes while waiting on God to heal our bodies, souls and spirits.
4) Ignorance can keep you in the fire when you are supposed to be under air condition. Do you know your position in Christ? Do you even know what God has promised you? How can you write a check when you don’t even know what amount of money you have in your account? Do you know God’s principles for prosperity?
5) Are you correctly positioned? Blessings are always attached to particular locations and assignments. Your blessing is attached to your calling, purpose or assignment. Are you where you should be, and doing what you should be doing?
6) Sometimes we need to wage spiritual warfare to get back what the devil has stolen from us. Do not underestimate his capacity to distract and derail you; to keep you from achieving your goals in life. There is a part you will have to play. If you stay in bed, cry and complain you will never go anywhere. The devil has no pity in him. Your tears can’t save you. Your faith in God will. And faith without works, we know, is dead faith (James 2:19-26).
This list is in no way exhaustive, but by answering these questions you can begin to understand why sometimes we never really get to enjoy what our Father has in store for us. God’s grace does not in any way replace hard work, obedience and the respect of biblical principles.
Get to work, and see you on the blessed side of life.
The dream I carry is so big, so vast, so deep…I’m frightened by the sheer size of it.
When I think about it I feel like giving up… “This is too much for me Lord; can’t you find someone else to do it?”
But when I think of where God took me (from the pit), When I think of how far we’ve come together, somehow I find the courage to go on.
He didn’t bring me this far just to abandon me here. He never starts a project that He doesn’t intend to finish.
It is not just my dream…it is His dream. He communicated it to me. I do not need to pay for it from my own pocket. He will sponsor His dream because it is about His Kingdom.
I am convinced that in the end I will have reason to celebrate. Those who trust in Him shall not be put to shame.
One day Jesus saw a man who had been sitting near a pool for 38 years waiting for and expecting healing from God. Everybody knew about him and no one did try to help him out. Everybody seemed to think that somehow, there was nothing wrong in him being there. He had become a part of the natural décor of that environment; it had become normal to see him there year after year and decade after decade.
Then one day something different happened to him. Jesus showed up, gave him an instruction and his story changed. “Glory to God, a notable miracle has happened. Our God has done it again…” This should have been the reaction of the leaders of the church. They should have been happy to see another testimony pointing to the greatness of God. No! They had other priorities at heart.
“Why are you carrying your bed on the Sabbath? Why did that man heal you on the Sabbath?”
It is like that prostitute who goes to church feeling so depressed…more depressed than the state of her dress; but then all we can see is her short skirt and heavy make-up. We then fail to appreciate a notable miracle; the fact that someone like that has made up their mind to stop running away from God.
I like the response the man gave to the Pharisees when they desired to know why he was crying his bed on the Sabbath.
“He who made me well said to me, ‘take up your bed and walk (John 5:11).’
I don’t know who has been breathing down the back of your neck and giving you five reasons why you shouldn’t be doing what you are doing. “As long as you live in my house, it is unlawful for you to pray. You are a former drug-addict and I won’t let you see my daughter; you used to be a sex worker, I can’t attend your church; you got born into the wrong family, you can’t have a break in life…”
This is my encouragement to you. Look at them in the face and say…”He who saved me told me I could make it…He who rescued me from the pit said to me ‘you are fearfully and wonderfully made…’”
At the end of the day, it’s not about pleasing men; it’s about doing the will of God and making it to heaven.
Do you know that many of us do not know what to do with God’s love? It is so great, so overwhelming that we cry out like peter, “depart from me Lord, I am a sinner (Luke 5:8)” because we do not feel worthy of it. It pushes us to want to do something to pay God back for such great grace and favour we have received.
Calm down beloved of the Lord. You Father’s love is not for sale. There is nothing in the world that is precious enough to buy an ounce of that love. You do not need to be prettier, richer or more pious to deserve it. While you were yet dead in sin, he loved you the same (Romans 5:8). What more of now that you have accepted to be a member of His household? Will He not shower even more of it? God is love, He cannot help it and all you need to do is accept it and learn to love Him in return.
IT CAN’T BE PETER
(Too good to be true)
The events in Acts chapter 12 about Peter’s imprisonment and release are quite telling about our attitude to prayer and receiving answers to our prayers. Is it possible to pray fervently for something and when the answer stands at your door, you fail to recognise it? It seems so, as can be seen from Peter’s story.
Herod got Peter imprisoned. The church interceded fervently with sweat and tears for his release. Now, one evening, while they yet prayed, a servant girl answered the door and came with the news that Peter is standing at the door. She did not immediately open the door, the first sign of unbelief. She probably needed someone to confirm to her that the answer to her prayer was staring at her in the face, waiting to be taken in. Now, she is just a servant, perhaps not versed in the ways of God. What about the church itself? They conclude that Rhoda must be beside herself. They simply refuse to believe that somehow, God has answered their prayer. It just can’t be Peter. So what on earth have they been expecting from God, that he should say no? Why bother to pray if you do not think God is going to answer your prayer? If Rhoda, the bearer of the good news looked too stupid to be believed, it is because these prayer warriors had a preconceived idea as to how God was going to answer their prayer.
Beloved, the ways of God are so much higher than ours. While you pray, bear it in mind that the answer can come in any form and from any quarters. From this story it is obvious that sometimes, for one reason or the other we fail to recognise the baby we have with so much effort pushed out of the birth canal. God’s blessings do come in packages we do not recognise and all we need to know is that our God is so immense and full of variety. We must never tie him down to the level of our limited minds.