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Have you ever heard yourself asking that kind of question? It happens at times that we get embarrassed by our own words and actions. Perhaps you meant well, but before you knew it you blew it and shamed yourself. Then you gave yourself a tag and started behaving like the label you gave yourself.
What motivates your choices in life? That could hold a clue to the reason why you keep acting the way you do.
The way you see yourself is very instrumental in determining the kind of decisions you make in life. If you see yourself as good, talented, cute and useful it will be reflected in your dress code, speech, the neighborhood you prefer and the kind of company you keep.
A person who thinks they are silly, dumb and good at nothing will act exactly that way. It will be reflected in the way they walk, talk and carry themselves. The kind of stuff you buy for yourself, the man you date, your dressing and eating habits all point to the way you see yourself.
It all begins in the mind. When you change your mind you will change your actions and you will change your life.
If you find yourself always going in for the cheap and ugly stuff, even when you could afford something better, it may be a sign that you have a bad self-image. You think that is all you deserve. You think the good things in life are meant for everyone else except you.
Take care of yourself. You have just one life to live. Like the desiderata says, “you are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars, you have a right to be here…”
Are you feeling lonely? Have family and friends abandoned or rejected you? Are you unmarried, childless or far away from home in a foreign land? Do you lack someone with whom you can share your joy, sorrows, fears and dreams? God knows all about it. Perhaps He even permitted it in order to get your attention. I’ve been there too. I have lived a situation whereby everybody in my environment wanted nothing to do with me. They were either too ashamed or too ignorant to identify with my affliction. My family was far away and I felt very lonely; alone in the crowd. At such a time, I learned to draw very close to my heavenly Father. He became my closest neighbor.
That is why I have developed a particular prayer language whereby if you hear me praying without seeing me, you may think I’m having a conversation with an intimate friend. He is my intimate friend indeed. It is something like this; “Daddy, I’m so hungry I can’t bear it any longer, what do you think about my new dress? I feel jealous of that lady, help me overcome it, do you know that I’m angry with you for letting me fall ill? I don’t like Mary and she just gets on my nerves. What do we do about it?” When you have gone through periods in your life when you had no one to talk to, you learn how to treat God as husband, friend, family, boss, etc. There were times when I wanted to be hugged and kissed and all I had was God, I wanted to be offered a bunch of roses but all I got was God, so I learned to take Him as my lover and spouse and what have you. This brought me to closeness with God which is really blessing me today. I have learned to depend on God alone so I’m no longer afraid to be rejected, so I am not afraid to be frank and honest in my opinion. I can boldly say today, I and God are majority.
Do not get me wrong; I still need my fellow humans, but if for some reason they become a source of trouble to me, I can easily send them off and turn to my God. What about you? Are you so keen on being surrounded by friends to the point where you compromise just to have some around? Who is your closest neighbor and why? Do not be afraid to say “no” to the wrong company. You will always find a better friendship in God.