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WHAT KIND OF LEADER ARE YOU?

 

No matter what we are called to do in life, no matter where we fine ourselves, we will have to submit to some kind of leadership or the other. Chances are that we might be the one in leadership position. A leader is the Captain of the ship. He is the visionary in the house and can like God, see the end from the beginning. He gives direction because he knows the destination.

 

       A leader who feels threatened by the gifts and potentials of his follower cannot effectively handle his duties. When the relationship with a leader reaches a level where he really feels threatened and insecure with the mentee, disciple or follower, the best solution is for them to part because there is bound to be conflict, suspicion and little or no collaboration.

       This should not be so. A leader should know his capacity and potential and equally understand that there comes a time when the mentor has completely duplicated himself in his disciple. This means that the latter can do almost all that his master does, but for the many years of wisdom-inspiring experience which the master has acquired and which his disciple is still aspiring to.

       In Genesis chapter 31, Jacob had to quit Laban because the latter was becoming intimidated by Jacob’s speed and progress. The house became too little to contain the two and it was difficult to know who was master and who was servant. Laban became really uncomfortable with his nephew’s progress. If you spend your entire life with such people, you will hardly fulfill your destiny. They are too bitter about their own slow progress to help you advance; they are too jealous to recommend you to your Boaz (Ruth 3:1-4) and they will intentionally withhold information that could help launch you into your destiny. This should not be so because a child, no matter how smart, will never be greater than his father and the joy of a father should be to see his children achieve what he has dreamed up.

Let us consider the story of King Saul and young David. When God anointed David King in the place of Saul, it was time for the latter to retire from active service and let his “son” David take up the relay baton. This was the time for Saul to humble himself and take on the role of a mentor to this young king since he knew the terrain already. He had been there already, made some mistakes; now he could have said, “son, I made some mistakes I’m not proud of and I will not like you to do same. We have the same mission, to lead God’s people so I will help you as best as I can to fulfil your divine assignment.” No. Saul saw David as a rival. He was not comfortable with his progress. This pushed him to extreme bitterness and wickedness.

However, David being a more mature leader even at his young age remained humble and wise under the terrible rule of Saul and refused to harm him even when it was in his power to do it. David fulfilled his assignment in spite of it all.

No matter how uncomfortable you might feel about someone’s progress, you cannot stop what God wants to do in their life. No matter how hard you try to destroy them, God’s sovereignty will finally prevail. So why not rather team up with them so that you can benefit from the fall outs?

Since submission to leadership is inevitable in life, we must pray for God to place us under good leadership and once we find ourselves in such positions, we should continue to pray for our leaders so that we may lead a quiet and  peaceable life (1 Timothy 2 1-2).

 

 

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When God becomes your closest neighbour

Are you feeling lonely? Have family and friends abandoned or rejected you? Are you unmarried, childless or far away from home in a foreign land? Do you lack someone with whom you can share your joy, sorrows, fears and dreams? God knows all about it. Perhaps He even permitted it in order to get your attention. I’ve been there too. I have lived a situation whereby everybody in my environment wanted nothing to do with me. They were either too ashamed or too ignorant to identify with my affliction. My family was far away and I felt very lonely; alone in the crowd. At such a time, I learned to draw very close to my heavenly Father. He became my closest neighbor.

That is why I have developed a particular prayer language whereby if you hear me praying without seeing me, you may think I’m having a conversation with an intimate friend. He is my intimate friend indeed. It is something like this; “Daddy, I’m so hungry I can’t bear it any longer, what do you think about my new dress? I feel jealous of that lady, help me overcome it, do you know that I’m angry with you for letting me fall ill? I don’t like Mary and she just gets on my nerves. What do we do about it?” When you have gone through periods in your life when you had no one to talk to, you learn how to treat God as husband, friend, family, boss, etc. There were times when I wanted to be hugged and kissed and all I had was God, I wanted to be offered a bunch of roses but all I got was God, so I learned to take Him as my lover and spouse and what have you. This brought me to closeness with God which is really blessing me today. I have learned to depend on God alone so I’m no longer afraid to be rejected, so I am not afraid to be frank and honest in my opinion. I can boldly say today, I and God are majority.

Do not get me wrong; I still need my fellow humans, but if for some reason they become a source of trouble to me, I can easily send them off and turn to my God. What about you? Are you so keen on being surrounded by friends to the point where you  compromise just to have some around? Who is your closest neighbor and why? Do not be afraid to say “no” to the wrong company. You will always find a better friendship in God.

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