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You do not have to accept that tag, that label, that name life has given you.
You can shake it off and get for yourself one that fits your taste and that looks like what you want to be called.
God can peel off that label for you and give you a brand new one tailored after His plan and purpose for your life.
Do not live your life behind the very label you hate. Shake it off. You deserve better than that.
Life is a chance (to do something great) and happiness is a choice you make.
The neighborhood where you live and it’s reality should not define the way we see the entire city.
We have to get beyond our individual reality to properly appreciate life as a whole.
- You were born in a palace; life is not just about living in palaces.
- You got hurt by a woman; all women are not “hurters”.
- You got jilted by the man you love; all men don’t jilt ladies.
- You’ve been smiling since the day you were born; someone near you needs you in their life to give them their first smile in life.
- A yellow-skinned man raped your daughter. All yellow-skinned men are not rapists.
- You’ve lived in affluence all your life; some of your neighbors live on less than a dollar a day.
May our hearts be bigger than our personal experiences.
Let’s be open-minded; let’s look beyond our individual reality and we’ll find a lot of people we can help, and we’ll make the world a better place.
Have you ever heard yourself asking that kind of question? It happens at times that we get embarrassed by our own words and actions. Perhaps you meant well, but before you knew it you blew it and shamed yourself. Then you gave yourself a tag and started behaving like the label you gave yourself.
What motivates your choices in life? That could hold a clue to the reason why you keep acting the way you do.
The way you see yourself is very instrumental in determining the kind of decisions you make in life. If you see yourself as good, talented, cute and useful it will be reflected in your dress code, speech, the neighborhood you prefer and the kind of company you keep.
A person who thinks they are silly, dumb and good at nothing will act exactly that way. It will be reflected in the way they walk, talk and carry themselves. The kind of stuff you buy for yourself, the man you date, your dressing and eating habits all point to the way you see yourself.
It all begins in the mind. When you change your mind you will change your actions and you will change your life.
If you find yourself always going in for the cheap and ugly stuff, even when you could afford something better, it may be a sign that you have a bad self-image. You think that is all you deserve. You think the good things in life are meant for everyone else except you.
Take care of yourself. You have just one life to live. Like the desiderata says, “you are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars, you have a right to be here…”
When I look back on my life I discover that the time I was the hardest to please coincides with the time I hated myself the most. What is the relationship between these two realities?
If you do not like yourself, nobody else will be able to make you do it and you will be rather hard to please. Why do people hate themselves so?
- Long exposure to negative feedback. When people keep hitting it home that you are no good, you could end up accepting it and that will define the way you see yourself.
- Lack of positive feedback and appreciation for efforts you invest. When no one ever tells you it was well done you could start thinking you never do anything worth encouraging.
- Your best efforts always seem to produce the most mediocre results. You must find out what you are good at and excel therein. You can’t get your best grades in an area you are not gifted in.
- The kind of things that happened to you in the past. You might have messed up much too often. But remember, we all do mess up sometimes.
- Disabilities that make you look and feel different. This could be very tough, but not impossible to overcome. You need God’s grace for this one. God can enable you to love yourself in spite of any disability you carry.
When faced with self-hatred, we must not blame anyone for our condition. This will only lead to bitterness and that is not good either, for our emotional stability.
It will be an error to try to use our relationships as a means of finding happiness. Strive to get happy as an individual. If you want to get it out of others you might become too demanding and more difficult to please.
Don’t use other people’s successes and achievements as a means to your own happiness. They might no longer be there tomorrow and you will find yourself sinking even lower.
From my own experience I can tell you that getting a lot of stuff around you doesn’t help. A new house, a new car etc. will help you but only for a season.
Ask yourself if you can really be happy if all the stuff were taken away from you. If the answer is yes, then you are happy indeed, or let me say you are experiencing joy.
What do I do then?
- Ask God to show you your intrinsic value. There is something about you that when you discover you will begin to sing, and then you will never stop singing ever.
- Develop your potentials and become a blessing to others. There is great joy in giving. When you live your life helping others you will hardly get depressed.
- Find out your weaknesses and accept them. Stop trying to wipe away your weaknesses by your efforts. If you fail you could become more depressed. Acknowledge them, bring them to God and leave them there.
- Read the kind of books that will build up your self-image. Avoid going to places and being with people that speak negativity, that always try to bring you down.
Be happy apart from them, then you will be happy with them.
When you get into a relationship it should be to share what you have, not to get what you want.
That there will be days He seems so far away
That on some days you’ll feel so distant from his grace
That you’ll wet your pillow with tears some nights
That the sun will scorch you in the wilderness some days
That the devil will come after you like a roaring lion
That you’ll have to defeat the giants before you enter the Promise Land.
This would have scared you away from His ultimate purpose for your life.
But do you know…
That His grace is sufficient and ever present?
That He will never leave you nor forsake you?
That He brings water out of rocks in the wilderness?
That you have authority over that roaring lion?
That, like David you can slay that giant and get the victory?
Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.
When life knocks you down to your knees
you are in a good position to pray.
The kind of life you live could be a result of the quality of your thoughts..
Those who deserve love the least need it the most.
What will you do if your own child looked at you in the face and made that kind of a statement? Will you consider them rude, ungrateful and mean? It might be they are rebellious and wanting to have their own way in life, or it might just be a call for you to take a deeper look at things you have ignored for so long. A better and more objective approach to such a statement will be to ask yourself a few questions.
- Have I done something negatively outrageous of recent?
- Has she discovered something I have been trying to hide from her?
- Does the life I live inspire her to be proud to be my daughter?
The truth is that our children go through every bit of pain, trauma and stress we face in life. You could try to hide it as best as you can but the signs are always there. You might not say a word about it but they can read it on your face. Things are not working out between mum and dad. Mum has been crying in her bedroom. Dad has started staying out late at night again. Mum has become very sad and anxious ever since that lady moved into the neighborhood. Take a closer look. You might think your kid is shielded from the mess in your life whereas she’s really part of it, savoring every piece with you. That child might be hurting more than you are. You have a deeper understanding of the things that are going on in your life but she doesn’t. All she sees is the pain and stress on your face and she really want to help but doesn’t know how. When she says she doesn’t want to be like you, she is not trying to belittle or humiliate you. It is a cry for help. She is scared to death of having to live the same kind of life you live. Rather than get angry with them do something about yourself and give that innocent one a chance to live a different kind of life; to be happy. Get some help, even if it’s just for the sake of that child.
My last post was titled, “If…”, and in that post I said if Jesus paid so great a price for me to have the blessings God has in store for me, then how can He again put a limit on my blessing. I wanted to show that most often we do not get blessed because we fail to lay claim to what is ours.
In this post I will go further on the topic. You might be asking yourself, “I know God has many good things for me; I know He wants the best for me, but no matter how hard I try, I never seem to obtain that which pertains to me.
“What are you telling me woman? I didn’t choose to live like a beggar. I wish to enter into the fullness of my blessing, but I just don’t seem to get it each time I try.”
From my own experience with God I have learned a few lessons that I will like to share with you.
1) Your difficulties may be a result of seeds another person sowed some time ago. Generational blessings are real, so too are generational curses. That is why you must sow the right seeds today so your children will not suffer in the future.
2) Your misery may be as a consequence of the irresponsible decisions someone is making. The world is a global community and we cannot really escape from the effects of others’ folly. You will have to be wiser and smarter in order not to keep being at the receiving end of every wrong decision in your neighborhood.
3) Your own very lifestyle and mistakes may be responsible for your situation. God forgives sin, but He does not always take away its consequence. Sometimes we just have to bear the wages of our mistakes while waiting on God to heal our bodies, souls and spirits.
4) Ignorance can keep you in the fire when you are supposed to be under air condition. Do you know your position in Christ? Do you even know what God has promised you? How can you write a check when you don’t even know what amount of money you have in your account? Do you know God’s principles for prosperity?
5) Are you correctly positioned? Blessings are always attached to particular locations and assignments. Your blessing is attached to your calling, purpose or assignment. Are you where you should be, and doing what you should be doing?
6) Sometimes we need to wage spiritual warfare to get back what the devil has stolen from us. Do not underestimate his capacity to distract and derail you; to keep you from achieving your goals in life. There is a part you will have to play. If you stay in bed, cry and complain you will never go anywhere. The devil has no pity in him. Your tears can’t save you. Your faith in God will. And faith without works, we know, is dead faith (James 2:19-26).
This list is in no way exhaustive, but by answering these questions you can begin to understand why sometimes we never really get to enjoy what our Father has in store for us. God’s grace does not in any way replace hard work, obedience and the respect of biblical principles.
Get to work, and see you on the blessed side of life.