Is she married? That’s the question that follows when a woman has proven beyond every doubt that she is capable of beating a man in a particular area of specialty. If the answer is “no”, the facial expressions immediately change; some people, both men and women will immediately put a cross on whatever she’s achieved.
It’s rather unfortunate that in our world some people still believe that a single lady deserves no respect no matter how many medals, trophies or epaulettes she’s been able to get for herself. They see the woman’s greatness only as an appendix to a man in her life.
What if the greatness in me is what is actually scaring the men away? What if all the men that ever came my way end up feeling inferior and insecure because they can’t handle the greatness in me?
Should I deny who I am in order to get married? Must I denounce my talent and gifting in order to be taken to the altar?
If a man won’t accept me with my greatness then he isn’t worth a minute of my time. I want a man who can call out the greatness in me; a man who will challenge me to do even greater exploits. I don’t need some creeping thing behind me that’s always trying to pull me down with negative comments because they want me to come down to their level.
It’s better to be great and single than to be married and mediocre. What do you think?
You are not single.
You are married to Jesus
One day He will lend you out for a season
To the man who dares present such a request
A faithful steward who will keep you in good shape
And present you to your husband when He comes to take you home
And if your Husband chooses to keep you jealously to Himself
Shout for joy for you are even dearer to His heart, most precious in His sight
And He knows you’ll never find a better husband than the one He is to you.
Prophet Elijah had just show cased the power of God and the anointing on his life by challenging and then killing the prophets of Baal as proof of the fact that his own God, the Almighty is the only true God.
When Queen Jezebel their spiritual leader hears of it she promises to reduce Elijah to the same fate. The prophet runs for his dear life and hides himself far away from the city. He is depressed and suicidal. He wants to end it all.
What a paradoxical reaction just after the Mount Carmel demonstration of God’s power.
God comes to him and asks him a very simple but profound question;
“What are you doing here Elijah?”
Has God now changed? Has He ceased to be the same God who answers by fire?
Today this same God is asking some of us; “what are you doing here my daughter/ my son?
What are you doing in that depression, talented young lady?
What are you doing in that suicide idealization, gifted young man?
What are you doing in that sickness and infirmity, daughter of the Most High?
What are you doing in that fear and uncertainty, wise old leader?
Have you forgotten how I showed up for you in the past?
Have you forgotten how we broke protocol in the past?
What are you doing here Elijah?
I asked for a neat and orderly man;
You just gave me an untidy one who scatters where I gather.
Yes my daughter, that’s why you grew up amidst five male siblings;
I’ve been grooming you for this very thing.
I asked for a slim girl with no spot on the skin;
You just gave me a fat and spotted leopard.
Ooh, indeed my little boy;
Why do you think I gave you all that money?
Spend some on her and you’ll get your desired result.
My blessing may come in a package you do not desire
But always remember, beneath lies your desire.
Have you ever heard yourself asking that kind of question? It happens at times that we get embarrassed by our own words and actions. Perhaps you meant well, but before you knew it you blew it and shamed yourself. Then you gave yourself a tag and started behaving like the label you gave yourself.
What motivates your choices in life? That could hold a clue to the reason why you keep acting the way you do.
The way you see yourself is very instrumental in determining the kind of decisions you make in life. If you see yourself as good, talented, cute and useful it will be reflected in your dress code, speech, the neighborhood you prefer and the kind of company you keep.
A person who thinks they are silly, dumb and good at nothing will act exactly that way. It will be reflected in the way they walk, talk and carry themselves. The kind of stuff you buy for yourself, the man you date, your dressing and eating habits all point to the way you see yourself.
It all begins in the mind. When you change your mind you will change your actions and you will change your life.
If you find yourself always going in for the cheap and ugly stuff, even when you could afford something better, it may be a sign that you have a bad self-image. You think that is all you deserve. You think the good things in life are meant for everyone else except you.
Take care of yourself. You have just one life to live. Like the desiderata says, “you are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars, you have a right to be here…”