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“Because of my son”

They’ve been times I almost gave up.

There are times I feel like throwing in the towel.

Very often I’ve wanted to do something really stupid…

But then I thought of how it will affect my son,

How he will live to suffer the effect…

Then I decided to choose the better option,

Even if it was the most difficult.

That is how God deals with us…

Because of His son He forgives you even when He shouldn’t,

He answers your prayers when you don’t deserve it,

He forgives you when you mess up,

He promises great things for you that you can not pay for


What will you give to God this season BECAUSE OF HIS SON?

Give Him your whole heart, your worship and trust.

That’s the least you can do BECAUSE OF HIS SON.

Change does not always bring change until you decide to change

These thoughts are based strictly on my own experiences and what I’ve observed in our society today.

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Prison does not take away criminality. It is the decision we take while in prison that will change us.

Having kids will not make me love children. If I love them first I will love them better when I  get in there.

Getting married does not make us mature and responsible. It could become an avenue for us to prove our immaturity and irresponsibility.

Changing the man at the top won’t solve the bankruptcy unless you understand what caused it in the first place.

Marriage can’t heal me from lust, frivolousness and unfaithfulness or porn. I must decide to “deal with it”.

Getting a new partner won’t heal the old wounds. I better get healed before I make Peter pay for what Paul did.

Cutting a tree at the trunk won’t kill it. Get to the roots, roll your sleeves and dig.

I hope I didn’t mess up your case. This post is addressed to me too, you know.

Asking for and receiving help: How good are you at it?

Do you feel comfortable asking for help? Do you with ease receive and appreciate help from others?

Let’s share our experiences in this area.

If your answer to the above questions is no, then read on as we examine some of the reasons why people feel uncomfortable with this.

  • You’ve always done it your way. You don’t want another person’s way out.
  • You’re used to doing it alone. You prefer the solo route.
  • You once asked for it and were rejected; you’re scared of rejection.
  • You’re too proud to admit you need help.
  • You think asking for help is a sign of weakness and insufficiency.
  • You have a false sense of responsibility; you don’t want to inconvenience anyone.
  • You don’t want to have to pay for it one day; you don’t like helping others yourself.
  • You just don’t know how to ask for help. You walk down to the fellow and then you walk pass them tongue-tight.
  • You don’t know how to receive and appreciate help; you’re afraid to mess up.

Whatever your own reason may be it is important to get to the root of it and get over it.

It feels very miserable to be in need of something someone wants to offer, yet be held back from asking for any reason whatsoever.

The world is full of people who want to help you. Do not shut them out of your life. Give them the opportunity to experience the joy of giving.

“How hard she tried to earn his love”…continued

The works Peggy did when she was still in her wilderness days were an effort to obtain solutions by her own power. They were not acts of faith based on the acceptance of God’s love. She wanted to help God to help her.
Whenever she failed to get what she wanted, because she thought she had already done all the “work” required to obtain what she wanted, she felt even more rejected and unloved. Then she went ahead to put in more effort to obtain more favor. This was gradually becoming a vicious cycle, and a very bleak one.
For so many years Peggy was in a “palace” but lived the life of a beggar.
When she finally understood who she was and what was hers by right she wanted to go look for the devil and give him a good whipping. How badly she had suffered because of the lies and deceptions of the devil all pointing to the fact that she didn’t deserve any good thing in life.
Before God delivered Peggy from that terrible mindset, she was really a victim when it came to relationships. She gave so much and received so little; in fact she didn’t even know how to receive from others. She thought it was her duty to give but never learned that it was her right to receive. She felt unworthy of good gifts. When you gave her something nice she would wonder why you ever bothered to do so. What had she done to deserve such a gifts? There were surely people out there who deserved it, not her.
Ever wanting to do things that would “make God happy”, she thought buying everything on the Christian market that had a God label on was a fine thing to do.

Peggy could never ask any big thing from God. She thought the good things were for others. She thought her past had already done so much harm to God and she wanted to “spare” God the trouble of having to do so much for her. She had never heard of God’s super-abundant love and mercy. By seeking only those things that were little and easy to get she was in her own way acknowledging that she was not supposed to “trouble” God; the God who had come down to her in her mess.

Little did she know that God felt hurt when she didn’t accept all His gifts to her.

Today she savors every good thing the Lord puts on her table with delight and relish.


There is no human being on the surface of the earth who came here by accident. Each and every one of us is a well-thought out and carefully planned piece of God’s creation. This may seem very untrue to an individual whose daily life is a struggle for survival. For those who have lost hope because of the circumstances of life and for those whose lives are full of pain, this is a very remote possibility.

However, divine truth has nothing to do with what we feel or what we choose to believe. God’s promises and true and what He says He can do, He does. The Bible reminds us that we are to live by faith and not by sight. This means that no matter what our senses are telling us, no matter what our present circumstances are forcing us to believe, we must willfully decide to stand by faith on what God is telling us.

Do you believe that although your life seems so useless and uneventful, that God desires a glorious and victorious existence for you? Do you know that there is a divine assignment that you alone can fulfill? Do you know that many destinies depend on you fulfilling your God-given purpose? We are all born to influence and impact each others’ lives through the gifts and talents in us. There is a good reason why God has permitted you to continue living in spite of all you are going through. He has a plan for you and if you will just look up to Him, He will reveal to you the glorious life you are meant to live.

You may be depressed right now, discouraged and suicidal. You may be thinking of taking an overdose to end your life or even to jump into a lake to end it all. Remember, Your creator has not said the final word yet. You   want to kill yourself because you are believing the devil’s lies. He told you you can never make it, that you are good for nothing and that no one loves you or cares about you. Lies, all lies. Remember the devil is the father of lies and all he knows is lies. He lied to Adam and Eve and got them into a mess. He wants to get you into a mess too. Refuse to let Him take the breath out of you.

Even if your life has been nothing but pain, hold on. Your very story and how you have survived till now can heal, deliver and rescue another hopeless case. You have a purpose, there is a reason for your existence on earth. You are not failure until you decide to quit and pull out a white flag. Give God a chance, call on Him and He will show you great and might things that you know not; marvelous things He has kept for those that look up to Him.

My friend, you are here for a purpose. Refuse to quit until that purpose is fulfilled. Only then will you have fulfillment and also help others to find joy because their joy depends on you discovering God and what He has in store for you.

Unconditional Love


It is very easy to love a baby when it is clean, dry, smiling and really fun to be with. Even a man will not mind carrying such a baby. The father will readily call it my baby, my own child. It is easy to love a woman who is beautiful, well-dressed, rich and of a refined character. Most men will pursue marriage with such.

Now, how about a baby that is wet with urine, and who is screaming at the top of its voice? What about an unkempt, nasty, poor and bad mannered lady. Who will take time to roll their sleeves, sit down and do the dirty work of cleaning up their mess because they love them even in the condition in which they are?

This is a picture of the kind of Love God has for us. In Romans 5:8, we are made to understand that while we were yet wallowing in our sins and mess, God was busy loving us to the extend of doing the dirty job of cleaning up our mess. This is unconditional love, love unparalleled and unexplainable. This ought to bring us down on our knees in honest worship and appreciation to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. When I consider the great work God has done in my life, when I look back and realize how unbearable I used to be, I fall down in worship to my Lord.




Those of us who have had some scary reports from the doctors can best understand the above statement. “Who has believed our report” asked prophet Isaiah. It is easy to say you trusted God and He healed you, when you get a tumor in your brain, pray, fast, go back to the doctor and it is gone. Praise the Lord, He has done it. But have you ever experienced what it feels like when God keeps saying you are healed, yet none of the symptoms is disappearing and the medical report does not show any change? Each time you go back to the doctor, the same ugly report is staring at you in the face.  What will you do? That is when your faith is really put to the test. Whose report will you believe? Both reports are demanding your attention; on one hand God’s own Word and on the other a piece of paper from a medical laboratory.

You know what? If you want to live, then get your eyes off that piece of paper and fasten them on God like the beggar at the Beautiful Gate. Never forget, the grass withers, the flower falls but God’s word endures forever (Isaiah 40:8). In fact, His word stands the test of time. Sometimes, God calms the storm but at other times, He calms His child. He can choose to heal you instantly or to take you on a healing journey. However, never let a piece of paper from a medical laboratory scare the faith out of you.

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