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The Anatomy of self-doubt

Do you find it hard to trust yourself? Are you scared of taking decisions because you’re afraid to make mistakes and bear the consequences?

Self-doubt is a thief who will steal your joy, your sense of self-worth and self-confidence; it will keep you in a stupor too fearful to try things out and discover their outcome.

Self–doubt immobilizes you with fear. You dread taking risks because you do not want to fail.

But the truth is, in life we can’t achieve much without stepping out to try things out and then see what we get at the end of the road. We only have to trust God at such moments to lead and guide us in the right direction, and to bring us back on track when we go astray.

What are some of the things that provoke self-doubt?

  • You’ve messed up too many times in life and you’re afraid to mess up another time. You prefer to play it safe this time.
  • You’ve been disappointed so often; you’d rather be careful.
  • You’ve been hurt too much; you won’t let it happen to you again; your guards are always up.
  • You’ve often been told you’re no good; you now belief it’s true. You don’t want to confirm that ugly report.
  • The devil is plaguing you with the spirit of fear and dread. You are under captivity and you need deliverance.
  • You just hate trying out new things; you’re the comfort zone kind of person.

Self-doubt in itself is not bad, especially the kind that pushes you to ask questions, try out new recipes and do research to find answers. This can actually lead to self-improvement which we all need.

What I’m talking about here is the kind of negative, tormenting self-doubt that makes you to devalue yourself and to doubt your own capability at achieving anything great.

When we understand that God has promised never to leave us or abandon us, that He will not be very angry with us for messing us, that He will readily take us back and continue to love us even when we’ve made mistakes, we will be more willing to take bold steps and to leap forward, counting on Him to see us through.

So what is the cure for self-doubt?

Trust that God knows your doubt and that He’s ready to give you answers when you ask him questions. Trust that He will faithfully guide and lead you along the way. Trust that Christ in you is wisdom, power and a sound mind.

Good luck to you all as you take bold steps and great leaps forward achieve great things in this year 2016.

Do not make your grave in the valley of doubt

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Asking for and receiving help: How good are you at it?

Do you feel comfortable asking for help? Do you with ease receive and appreciate help from others?

Let’s share our experiences in this area.

If your answer to the above questions is no, then read on as we examine some of the reasons why people feel uncomfortable with this.

  • You’ve always done it your way. You don’t want another person’s way out.
  • You’re used to doing it alone. You prefer the solo route.
  • You once asked for it and were rejected; you’re scared of rejection.
  • You’re too proud to admit you need help.
  • You think asking for help is a sign of weakness and insufficiency.
  • You have a false sense of responsibility; you don’t want to inconvenience anyone.
  • You don’t want to have to pay for it one day; you don’t like helping others yourself.
  • You just don’t know how to ask for help. You walk down to the fellow and then you walk pass them tongue-tight.
  • You don’t know how to receive and appreciate help; you’re afraid to mess up.

Whatever your own reason may be it is important to get to the root of it and get over it.

It feels very miserable to be in need of something someone wants to offer, yet be held back from asking for any reason whatsoever.

The world is full of people who want to help you. Do not shut them out of your life. Give them the opportunity to experience the joy of giving.

“IF…” continued

My last post was titled, “If…”, and in that post I said if Jesus paid so great a price for me to have the blessings God has in store for me, then how can He again put a limit on my blessing. I wanted to show that most often we do not get blessed because we fail to lay claim to what is ours.
In this post I will go further on the topic. You might be asking yourself, “I know God has many good things for me; I know He wants the best for me, but no matter how hard I try, I never seem to obtain that which pertains to me.
“What are you telling me woman? I didn’t choose to live like a beggar. I wish to enter into the fullness of my blessing, but I just don’t seem to get it each time I try.”
From my own experience with God I have learned a few lessons that I will like to share with you.
1) Your difficulties may be a result of seeds another person sowed some time ago. Generational blessings are real, so too are generational curses. That is why you must sow the right seeds today so your children will not suffer in the future.
2) Your misery may be as a consequence of the irresponsible decisions someone is making. The world is a global community and we cannot really escape from the effects of others’ folly. You will have to be wiser and smarter in order not to keep being at the receiving end of every wrong decision in your neighborhood.
3) Your own very lifestyle and mistakes may be responsible for your situation. God forgives sin, but He does not always take away its consequence. Sometimes we just have to bear the wages of our mistakes while waiting on God to heal our bodies, souls and spirits.
4) Ignorance can keep you in the fire when you are supposed to be under air condition. Do you know your position in Christ? Do you even know what God has promised you? How can you write a check when you don’t even know what amount of money you have in your account? Do you know God’s principles for prosperity?
5) Are you correctly positioned? Blessings are always attached to particular locations and assignments. Your blessing is attached to your calling, purpose or assignment. Are you where you should be, and doing what you should be doing?
6) Sometimes we need to wage spiritual warfare to get back what the devil has stolen from us. Do not underestimate his capacity to distract and derail you; to keep you from achieving your goals in life. There is a part you will have to play. If you stay in bed, cry and complain you will never go anywhere. The devil has no pity in him. Your tears can’t save you. Your faith in God will. And faith without works, we know, is dead faith (James 2:19-26).
This list is in no way exhaustive, but by answering these questions you can begin to understand why sometimes we never really get to enjoy what our Father has in store for us. God’s grace does not in any way replace hard work, obedience and the respect of biblical principles.
Get to work, and see you on the blessed side of life.

STILL SEARCHING

When my errors past and present
Stare so keenly in my face
When all I’ve done and sadly so
Comes back to me in floods of memory
What do I do, where do I hide?

When fingers accusing point and blame
Eyelids peeled and eyeballs bright
Mouths ajar demanding to know
Questions to ponder, questions to answer
What do I say, where do I hide?

With trembling lip and shaky hand
I dare not look at them in the face
Will they see my tears of shame?
Who will know how deeply I regret
How do I tell it, where do I hide?

I never meant such evil to do
To live and love and be happy always
That is what I ever dreamed to be
But then, I fell and I fell again
And now I’m bruised and battered from the fall.

Judge me not so severely sister
Leave a space for mercy you know
I might be bold and strong and steady
But deep within I’m just a little girl
Searching for answers, still searching for answers.

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