Is she married? That’s the question that follows when a woman has proven beyond every doubt that she is capable of beating a man in a particular area of specialty. If the answer is “no”, the facial expressions immediately change; some people, both men and women will immediately put a cross on whatever she’s achieved.
It’s rather unfortunate that in our world some people still believe that a single lady deserves no respect no matter how many medals, trophies or epaulettes she’s been able to get for herself. They see the woman’s greatness only as an appendix to a man in her life.
What if the greatness in me is what is actually scaring the men away? What if all the men that ever came my way end up feeling inferior and insecure because they can’t handle the greatness in me?
Should I deny who I am in order to get married? Must I denounce my talent and gifting in order to be taken to the altar?
If a man won’t accept me with my greatness then he isn’t worth a minute of my time. I want a man who can call out the greatness in me; a man who will challenge me to do even greater exploits. I don’t need some creeping thing behind me that’s always trying to pull me down with negative comments because they want me to come down to their level.
It’s better to be great and single than to be married and mediocre. What do you think?
You are not single.
You are married to Jesus
One day He will lend you out for a season
To the man who dares present such a request
A faithful steward who will keep you in good shape
And present you to your husband when He comes to take you home
And if your Husband chooses to keep you jealously to Himself
Shout for joy for you are even dearer to His heart, most precious in His sight
And He knows you’ll never find a better husband than the one He is to you.
I have come to believe that being single is not a problem. It is the way the society sees and interprets it that creates a problem that should not normally exist.
Why is that preacher talking as though to be single at a certain age is a curse?
Why is pastor hurriedly trying to clip people together so that they don’t remain single?
While we celebrate marriage, because God ordained it (Genesis 2:22), and because it is honorable, we must not always try to get a reason as to why so and so is not getting married.
While we strive to help people get life partners, we shouldn’t make others feel they are abnormal because they aren’t there yet; or never will be. Let’s celebrate singleness too, with Apostle Paul (1 Corinthians 7:7-8).
Help the singles valorize their singleness; don’t push them to a position where their single and most important dream is to get married.
Unmarried people are not societal misfits, no matter the reason for their singleness. The blessing of the Lord is upon them too.
Give them the respect they are due.