Is she married? That’s the question that follows when a woman has proven beyond every doubt that she is capable of beating a man in a particular area of specialty. If the answer is “no”, the facial expressions immediately change; some people, both men and women will immediately put a cross on whatever she’s achieved.
It’s rather unfortunate that in our world some people still believe that a single lady deserves no respect no matter how many medals, trophies or epaulettes she’s been able to get for herself. They see the woman’s greatness only as an appendix to a man in her life.
What if the greatness in me is what is actually scaring the men away? What if all the men that ever came my way end up feeling inferior and insecure because they can’t handle the greatness in me?
Should I deny who I am in order to get married? Must I denounce my talent and gifting in order to be taken to the altar?
If a man won’t accept me with my greatness then he isn’t worth a minute of my time. I want a man who can call out the greatness in me; a man who will challenge me to do even greater exploits. I don’t need some creeping thing behind me that’s always trying to pull me down with negative comments because they want me to come down to their level.
It’s better to be great and single than to be married and mediocre. What do you think?
What you own?
Who you are related to?
Who you are married to?
The name you’ve made for yourself?
If you do not value yourself as an individual, these things won’t make you feel better about yourself.
And if you happen to lose them they will take along any sense of self-esteem and value you had.
It’s important you discover your intrinsic value. Nothing can take that away from you.
How do you go about that?
- Know that you are a unique individual possessing innate beauty, talent and purpose.
- You are a masterpiece with no duplicate on planet earth. No one can be you. You have “a something” that no other individual possesses. Discover it.
- Ask God to reveal to you how He feels about you; what He thinks about you. This revelation will make you want to stand on a roof top and shout “Look at me”.
You will forget about your defects and inabilities.
You’ll begin to minimize and finally overcome man’s negative opinion about you.
My personal diary has entries about some sweet things God has told me about me. I know how God sees me, What He thinks about me.
That is why in spite of my numerous weaknesses and defects, “Words can’t put me down”.
Have you ever heard yourself asking that kind of question? It happens at times that we get embarrassed by our own words and actions. Perhaps you meant well, but before you knew it you blew it and shamed yourself. Then you gave yourself a tag and started behaving like the label you gave yourself.
What motivates your choices in life? That could hold a clue to the reason why you keep acting the way you do.
The way you see yourself is very instrumental in determining the kind of decisions you make in life. If you see yourself as good, talented, cute and useful it will be reflected in your dress code, speech, the neighborhood you prefer and the kind of company you keep.
A person who thinks they are silly, dumb and good at nothing will act exactly that way. It will be reflected in the way they walk, talk and carry themselves. The kind of stuff you buy for yourself, the man you date, your dressing and eating habits all point to the way you see yourself.
It all begins in the mind. When you change your mind you will change your actions and you will change your life.
If you find yourself always going in for the cheap and ugly stuff, even when you could afford something better, it may be a sign that you have a bad self-image. You think that is all you deserve. You think the good things in life are meant for everyone else except you.
Take care of yourself. You have just one life to live. Like the desiderata says, “you are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars, you have a right to be here…”
Life is like a coin with two faces on it. You choose the side that will influence your existence. It is a decision you must take or else circumstances, people and events will do so for you. Choose the bright side of life.
- Choose to celebrate your gifts and talents rather than lament because of your weakness.
- Trust that God loves you more than the devil hates you.
- Live in hope rather than despair and hopelessness.
- Appreciate the good people do to you and choose to minimize and ignore the hurt they cause you.
- See your past errors and mistakes as lessons to learn from and not condemnation to live with.
- See every challenge as an opportunity to exercise your gifts and talents.
- See God as a loving father and not a wicked task master.
- Choose to see life from the right perspective.