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To hold on or to let go?

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Life is made of seasons. Some seasons require that we let go while other seasons need a holding on.

If you hold on when you are supposed to let go, you are in trouble; and if you let go when you are expected to keep holding on, you are in as much trouble.

Now you ask me, when do I know it’s time to hold on or to let go? Good question.

For this we need discernment. Ask of God and He will give you of this spirit abundantly and free of charge.

In addition to this we need wisdom; not the wisdom of this world that comes to nothing but divine wisdom that leads to sure victory. “Is it wise for me to hold on or to let go in this situation?”

Furthermore you need to know your bigger purpose in life. “Does letting go, or holding on, fit into the bigger purpose, vision, plan for my life?”

For all of these to work together for your good you need faith, the kind of unshakable faith that defies all odds. You must have self-confidence and the right kind of self-esteem so that you don’t get tossed from one opinion to another by public opinion.

There will be times in your life wherein the whole world (including your spouse, father, pastor, child etc) is against you. At the same time, the Spirit of God, and your deepest conviction are saying the contrary. What will you do in this case? Give in to the pressure?

There is a time to hold on and a time to let go. May you never hold on to dry branches, and may you never let go of God-given opportunities.

Discern, be wise, be purposeful, then take a stand and be ready to defend it with your faith.

To hold on or to let go?

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What are you doing here … (write your name in the space)

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Prophet Elijah had just show cased the power of God and the anointing on his life by challenging and then killing the prophets of Baal as proof of the fact that his own God, the Almighty is the only true God.

When Queen Jezebel their spiritual leader hears of it she promises to reduce Elijah to the same fate. The prophet runs for his dear life and hides himself far away from the city. He is depressed and suicidal. He wants to end it all.

What a paradoxical reaction just after the Mount Carmel demonstration of God’s power.

God comes to him and asks him a very simple but profound question;

“What are you doing here Elijah?”

Has God now changed? Has He ceased to be the same God who answers by fire?

Today this same God is asking some of us; “what are you doing here my daughter/ my son?

What are you doing in that depression, talented young lady?

What are you doing in that suicide idealization, gifted young man?

What are you doing in that sickness and infirmity, daughter of the Most High?

What are you doing in that fear and uncertainty, wise old leader?

Have you forgotten how I showed up for you in the past?

Have you forgotten how we broke protocol in the past?

What are you doing here Elijah?

RATE ME…

 

I have a profound respect for people who ask to be rated. When we willingly submit to examination and grading, it could look like a little matter to those who find it easy to stand naked in the eyes of everyone and not feel vulnerable.

Whether you are asking to be rated in relation to your character, habits, performance or your looks, it takes a great deal of courage and self-confidence which you might not even be aware you possessed. The following are some of the elements I think constitute the internal chemistry of those who willingly ask for and even desire to be rated.

  1. They are courageous enough to face any negative verdict that can come from the raters.
  2. They have a positive self-image, enough to handle any kind of feedback from their audience.
  3. They have come to a place in life where they are no longer scared of what people think or say about them. They have such a powerful self-portrait that cannot be broken by people’s opinion.
  4. They are mature enough to handle criticism, whether constructive or destructive.

When you are animated by such a mind set you can’t easily be destabilized by the kind of rating you receive from your audience.

Now, what are the various kinds of reactions that are provoked in us when we subject ourselves to rating?

  1. We could become angry because the rating falls short of our expectations. You expected and ‘excellent’ but you got an ‘average’. This could be a sign that you still have much to learn and become mature. It could also be a sign of too much self-confidence. It is good to be confident, but your self-confidence should be built on a powerful foundation so that it doesn’t get easily eroded.
  2. We could develop a swollen head and begin to think ‘I beat them all. None can stand up to me’. Don’t get carried away by the “excellent” you got. It is just someone’s opinion. Celebrate your achievements but stay humble, reachable and teachable.
  3. We could become discouraged and depressed. “Well, I guess no one likes me around here. I give up’. Get for yourself an image that is independent of external views. Get to discover the intrinsic you. No amount of negative feedback can destroy your intrinsic value.
  4. We could show gratitude for the feedback we received. If it’s good, determine to do better. If it’s bad, determine to be good. Refuse to get upset with anyone. This is a mature and wise response to the rating experience. You are confident enough to handle critics and you are humble enough to acknowledge your weaknesses.When is the last time you asked someone to rate you?

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